Already, after reading the title of this post, you may be wondering, What is Kevin talking about? He has always said to hate the tyrant within us – fight and overthrow him.
But I have never said to hate the tyrant within us. The tyrant is a part of us, and we should never hate ourselves.
But, yes. We should fight the tyrant. We should limit his manipulative influence in our lives. Stem his resources by supplying ourselves with proven systems of success.
You should learn from your failures and learn to love your weaknesses. You should love thine adversary, respect them, and perhaps you can recruit them.
Take the example of two fighters hugging it out after a fight. In the midst of battle, the combatants must try to overthrow their opponent. They must take advantage of each other’s weaknesses and follies. But afterwards, they both value the experience they shared, and can be friends.
Being a good sport is important for developing leadership and recruiting/retaining a team.
Relationships that last always have struggles, but the people in the relationship find ways to move on from them – they even learn from them.
The best way to develop a relationship with someone is to talk with them – communication is the key….It is no different with the body.
I have elaborated on this idea of communication within the body:
Think of the nervous system’s role in an exercise. Consider how it communicates with the muscular system and promotes continual communication via neurological pathways. There cannot be any interference in the dialogue between the mind and muscle – they must be united in their mission.
The reason the nervous system and muscular system can communicate so efficiently is because the two are innervated together in a single, unbroken chain of command. There is Unity of Command, which means, Everyone knows who is in charge.
It may be useful to review Commander’s Intent.
You have fulfilled the role of a Commander (click here, if you haven’t). A part of you is most comfortable when everything is under your control. After all, we spent an entire series exploring Command and Control!
But you cannot control everything. There are many things that are completely out of your control. While you should make constant effort to control as much of your immediate surroundings as possible, you must also take into consideration that other people have their own Free Will.
Losing control, or in other words, having control taken from you by another’s free will, can teach you a tremendous lesson as a leader.
Anticipate Failure, and Achieve Victory
You should be adequately prepared for failure. Remember that the intensity of resistance is relative to your preparation.
Therefore, I would encourage you to lower your expectations of others. If you expect nothing from anyone – you do not expect handouts or help – then you will always be in control. You cannot be left high and dry if you have prepared yourself, physically and mentally, to fight your battles alone!
There is a dichotomy here: you must be willing to ask for help when necessary. The key is to not rely solely on others when things get tough. To be in control, you must occasionally accept that you will lose control.
It reminds me of when Elliot Hulse said, Every master was once a disaster. To master yourself, you must wade through the disasters that occur. You cannot constantly reach out for a hand as you slip below the waves – you sometimes just have to swim!
Immediate Action Drill
Begin your day with positive self-worth exercises. A nation divided will turn against itself. You have only just successfully executed a Counterinsurgency. You cannot risk losing ground to an enemy within.
As stated above, a high quality relationship comes from high-quality communication. Make time to improve your mind-body relationship.
Construct a morning routine with an emphasis on personal development: visualization, meditation, and fueling the body.
Upon waking, hydrate and sit quietly somewhere well-lit (ideally outside in the light from the rising sun). Close your eyes and envision your previous day. Contemplate what happened yesterday and why things went well and why things went awry.
Express gratitude for this time you have been given.
This exercise may be for as long as you like. By devoting even two minutes a day, you are adding quality communication between your body and mind.